I haven't met my soulmate because he does not exist.
My early believe was wrong...It was all in my head.
When I was growing up I dedicated my heart, with reckless abandon, to the idea of finding my soul mate.
Now I am realizing that such a philosophy is actually more harmful than it is valuable.
I do believe that we should feel something unique when we finally meet the person we choose to spend our lives with, and I do believe that we should be inspired and deeply moved by the love we are gifted in life.
In reality, there is more to forever than simply finding someone who you feel extremely connected to. We can't keep striving for this absolute, perfect love, because when life throws us some less than perfect situations we are going to need more than connection, more than an emotional up welling of exhilaration. We are going to need pragmatic love, we are going to need levelheadedness, we are going to need a person who fights for us every single day – who chooses us in spite of circumstances.
Soul mates don’t exist. Real human beings do. The goal is to redefine this idea of the perfect kind of love, and turn it into an openness to a very real kind of love. You aren’t going to find someone who completes you, and you shouldn’t strive for that. Instead, strive to find someone who inspires you to complete yourself. Strive to find someone who pushes you, and breaks into you in ways that allow for you to see all of the potential that exists within your bones. Strive to find someone who your loves grows with – slowly, strongly. Strive to find someone who ignites within you the motivation to love in the most enduring of ways because, luckily, that kind of person does exist.
Ezzy ƸӜƷ
